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                                   HANDFASTING (WEDDING)
                                        Ryan Hunter

          [The following wedding ceremony was written to provide for Pagans  
          who  must of necessity be wed in the presence of the  uninitiated  
          who  are  not  pagan and are perhaps unaware that the  bride  and  
          groom are pagan. Replace the words Bride and Groom below with the  
          names of the happy couple. This ceremony was used by both my wife  
          and  myself and by my sister and her husband.  They modified  the  
          text  at the point below where it says "loving each other  wholly  
          and completely" to add the phrase "forsaking all others" as  they  
          are into monogamy.  Either version works beautifully, I recommend  
          the participants rewrite where necessary to form a legal contract  
          that  they  can  and  will keep.  It is easy to  avoid  being  an  
          oathbreaker  if  you only swear to that you  will  keep  and  
          avoid swearing to something just because the other party wants it  
          or because it might be "expected" by the family. Notice: parts of  
          this ritual were cribbed from the writings of others. I apologize  
          in  advance  for  failure  to reference  sources  but  after  the  
          fifteenth rewrite we had forgotten where we got the text and what  
          was and what was not original to us.  I doubt if there are quotes  
          from  other sources longer than paragraph length and thus  should  
          not  be a copyright problem.  If you see something that is yours,  
          please send me mail and I will reference you in the  future.  Our  
          thanks to those who paved the way. --Ryan Hunter] 
           
          [PRIEST] We have come together here in celebration of the joining  
          together of ____bride______ and ____groom______.  There are  many  
          things to say about marriage. Much wisdom  concerning the joining  
          together  of  two  souls,has come our way through  all  paths  of  
          belief,  and from many cultures.  With each union, more knowledge  
          is gained and more wisdom gathered.  Though we are unable to give  
          all this knowledge to these two, who stand before us, we can hope  
          to  leave  with them the knowledge of love and its strengths  and   
          the anticipation of the wisdom that comes with time.   The law of  
          life  is love unto all beings.    Without love,  life is nothing,  
          without love,  death has no redemption.  Love is anterior to Life,  
          posterior  to  Death,   initial of Creation and the  exponent  of  
          Earth.   If we learn no more in life, let it be this.   
           
          Marriage  is  a bond to be entered into only  after  considerable  
          thought  and reflection.  As with any aspect of life,  it has its  
          cycles, its ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs.  With  
          full understanding of this,  Groom and Bride have come here today  
          to be joined as one in marriage.  




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          Others would ask,  at this time, who gives the bride in marriage,  
          but,  as a woman is not property to be bought and sold, given and  
          taken,  I ask simply if she comes of her own will and if she  has  
          her family's blessing.  
           
          Bride,   is   it  true that you come of your own free  will   and  
          accord? 
           
          [BRIDE] Yes, it is true. 
           
          [PRIEST] With whom do you come and whose blessings accompany you. 
           
          [FATHER] She comes with me, her father, and is accompanied by all  
          of her family's blessings. 
           
          [PRIEST] Please join hands with your betrothed and listen to that  
          which I am about to say. 
           
          Above you are the stars,  below you are the stones,  as time doth  
          pass, remember... 
           
          Like  a  stone should your love be firm like a star  should  your  
          love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect  
          guide you in your marriage,  let the strength of your wills  bind  
          you  together,  let the power of love and desire make you  happy,  
          and  the  strength of your dedication make  you  inseparable.  Be  
          close,   but  not  too  close.    Possess  one  another,  yet  be  
          understanding.   Have patience with one another,  for storms will  
          come, but they will pass quickly. 
           
          Be free in giving affection and warmth.  Have no fear and let not  
          the  ways of the unenlightened give you unease,  for God is  with  
          you always. 
           
          Groom,  I have not the right to bind thee to Bride, only you have   
          this right.   If it be your wish,  say so at this time  and place  
          your ring in her hand.  
           
          [GROOM] It is my wish. 
           









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          [PRIEST]  Bride,   if  it be your wish for Groom to be bound   to   
          you,  place the ring on his finger.  (places ring on Groom's left  
          ring finger) 
           
          Bride  I  have not the right to bind thee to Groom only you  have   
          this right.   If it be your wish,  say so at this time  and place  
          your ring in his hand. 
          [BRIDE] It is my wish. 
          [PRIEST] Groom,  if it be your wish for Bride to be bound to you,  
          place   the   ring on her finger.(places ring on   Bride's   left  
          ring finger) 
           
          (to Groom) Repeat after me: 
           
          I,   (grooms full name),   in the name of the spirit of God  that  
          resides  within us all,  by the life that courses within my blood  
          and  the love that resides within my heart,   take thee  (bride's  
          full  name) to my hand,   my heart,   and my spirit,   to be   my  
          chosen  one.  To desire thee and be desired by thee,  to  possess  
          thee,  and be possessed by thee, without sin or shame, for naught  
          can  exist in the purity of my love for thee.   I promise to love  
          thee wholly and completely without restraint,  in sickness and in  
          health,  in plenty and in poverty,  in life and beyond,  where we  
          shall meet, remember, and love again.  I shall not seek to change  
          thee in any way.   I shall respect thee, thy beliefs, thy people,  
          and thy ways as I respect myself. 
           
          (to Bride) 
          I  (bride's full name),   in the name of the spirit  of  God that   
          resides  within  us  all,   by the life that courses  within   my  
          blood,  and  the  love that resides within my heart,  take  thee,  
          (Groom's full name) to my hand,   my heart,   and my spirit to be  
          my  chosen one.   To desire and be desired by  thee,  to  possess  
          thee,  and be possessed by thee, without sin or shame, for naught  
          can  exist in the purity of my love for thee.   I promise to love  
          thee wholly and completely without restraint,  in sickness and in  
          health,  in plenty and in poverty,  in life and beyond,  where we  
          shall meet, remember, and love again.  I shall not seek to change  
          thee in any way.   I shall respect thee, thy beliefs, thy people,  
          and thy ways as I respect myself. 
           








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          [PRIEST] 
          (hands  chalice to the groom,  saying:) May you drink  your  fill  
          from the cup of love. 
           
          (Groom  holds  chalice to bride while she sips then  bride  takes  
          chalice and holds it to groom while he sips.  The chalice is then  
          handed  back to the Priest who sets it on the  table.   Next  the  
          Priest  takes the plate of bread,  giving it to the groom.   Same  
          procedure  repeated  with bread,  groom feeding bride  and  bride  
          feeding groom.) 
           
          By the power vested in me by God and the State of Alabama,  I now  
          pronounce you husband and wife.  May your love so endure that its  
          flame remains a guiding light unto you. 



































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